After the Love is Gone – What Should a Virtual Assistant Do?
Clients can fall off the VA radar rather quickly. And it can be a painful experience.
“Am I doing something wrong?” is the first question every VA asks when the following occurs:
- Client stops emailing abruptly
- Client responds, but slowly
- Client says he/she will do something but does not follow through
- Client pays invoices late
- Client stops paying invoices all together
- Client is simply MIA despite repeated VA attempts to contact Client (but they can be seen on Twitter and Facebook)
It is difficult not to be angry. You have poured your heart and soul into this client’s work. You’ve stayed up late or worked extra hard to get the work in on time only to be forgotten. When once the relationship was continuous and exciting, it is now troubling and agonizing.
And while I try not to become too personal with my clients, I have found that working in a virtual mode without face-to-face contact is a petri dish for growing personal connections. Emails do not hide feelings and it is quite easy to really like a client based upon daily correspondence and phone calls. So when that relationship wanes, the hurt can feel similar to losing a good friend; particularly if you have worked with a client for a year or more.
Remind yourself this is business and no matter how many jokes or personal moments you have shared with this client, it is still all business. And, I know that concept can be hard to fathom. Sometimes we can become so involved, that while the work is indeed work; it can also be enjoyable. This transfers to the relationship with the client making it all the more difficult to accept the client’s decision to fall off the radar is indeed, business-related.
- At the first sign of a waning client-VA relations, my first suggestion is to step back and breathe. You will be glad you did not take action immediately and write some confounded email that you will regret later.
- Take a day or two and decide what to do. Mull the alternatives around; forming no definite decision. Keep an open mind.
- When you are ready, compose an email or a phone script (if you plan to call the client) first and then read, and reread. Step back again and then reread again. I guarantee the first writing will be changed entirely to something more professional.
With a ‘business, not personal’ mindset, decide if you want to ‘hold’ their deposit. (Hopefully, you have taken a deposit.) I personally do not like to hold on to any client monies. But I do have a non-refundable clause in my contract. Offer to work to the end and use up the deposit money (my preferred choice) but be clear when that will be. Remind the client that by a certain date the deposit monies will not be refundable. Usually that is enough to get things going so the relationship can finally be put to rest.
And certainly, if they owe you money, stop the work immediately.
If your client has prepaid for services he is not taking advantage of and it looks as if he will not be using your services in the near future my advice is to set a timeframe when work will need to be completed. Explain that you are holding prepaid retainer money (along with deposit money) that will not be refunded if work is not offered by a certain date. I believe 30 days is sufficient. When the work is sent to the VA, complete the work and decide at that point whether the relationship will continue or terminate.
As I mentioned, I do strive to work to the end using up the deposit money but that may not always be possible. Returning the deposit will be up to the virtual assistant.
It is important to note that if the client has extenuating circumstances, it is best to work out a plan and be an understanding individual. It may be a temporary set-back that will be rectified. However, if the problem client continues to be difficult, it is best to cut all ties.
“Honestly, once a client becomes difficult to work with, it has been my experience that this behavior will occur again. It is simply not worth the virtual assistant’s time and effort to ‘beg’ for work because begging is what it feels like. And that feels wrong.” Janine Gregor
While understanding those red flags before signing with a client is important, there is no real indicator that things will go sour a year down the road. It’s the nature of the beast.
Be prepared for the worse: Have a contract ready. Take a deposit. Set the terms of the work, i.e., every 2 weeks, every 4 weeks. Don’t roll over hours to the next month (It’s an accounting nightmare if you are not an accounting virtual assistant AND clients will take advantage of the opportunity stretching out hours from one month to the next. You can’t run a business that way.) Decide if the deposit is refundable before any client ‘falls off’. Act early. Don’t let the situation drag on. It will gnaw away at you and eat into your time you could be spending with clients who are really ready to be professional.







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